Wedding Tip Tuesday: Writing your own Vows {Houston Wedding Photographer}

I have a secret. Emmanuel and I have our own language. No it’s not pig-latin. But there are cute words or phrases I say, that bring a instant smile to his face – one that tells me that I am the most adorable thing to him.

I want to say those things that have the most meaning to us on our wedding day as well. So I have this idea that I want to write my own vows. Notice I said “I” – because I’m not sure I could get any more than “I will love you forever, evah, evah” from him. Maybe I’d need a ghostwriter. haha. One of the reasons is that I want to make the ceremony longer and make it the centerpiece of the day rather than a sideshow to the reception. We probably won’t have a religious ceremony, so writing our our vows will show our faith to each other in front of those most important to us. On the photography side, a 15 minute ceremony may leave a lot to be desired. No it dosen’t have to be an hour long, but yes – sometimes it’s just too quick. I want to be up there feeling the weight of my actions (in a good way), I want to feel the smiles radiating from family and friends, okay, okay… I want to see Emmanuel sweat. lol.

Here’s and excerpt from lifetips.com to help everyone along.

Writing your own wedding vows may suit your personal wedding style, but it can be a bit of a daunting task to begin with. If you are trying to write your own vows, don’t let the task overwhelm you or intimidate you. Writing your own vows should begin and end with how you feel, not what others are expecting. If you are creating your own wedding ceremony and style and you want to write your own vows, here are a few questions to consider in creating the vows you want to make. 

• When and where did you first meet?
• What was the state of your life before the two of you met?
• At what point did you realize you were in love? Describe the feeling.
• What inspires you about your loved one?
• What life goals and dreams do you share?
• What have you learned from each other?
• What qualities make your love unique? What qualities will keep it strong?
• How has your view of the world changed since you fell in love?
• What do you most look forward to about life with this person?
• What are some special moments in your relationship? Use them all, even the sad times as well as the happy, moving, or profound.
• What happened the day you asked her to marry you? How did you feel?

Reading the vows you have written yourself during your wedding ceremony can be one of the most romantic things you’ve ever done. It’s the kind of thing that really helps you create your own personal wedding style. Writing your own vows is a kind of personal touch that cannot be replicated by any other style of vow.